“Being celibate was so wonderful. It taught me a lot about love, but even more about my own self outside of love. I'd never met myself out of love before, really.” Love IsWonderful Author:Melissa Febos
“I absolutely think that women told that writing about themselves is somehow not worthy enough for a public audience all the time. I hear it so often from my students and friends. As if it doesn't take rigorous craft, and intellectual acuity to write a slammin' book of any kind. But perhaps, especially, about the body.” ThinkingWritingKindBookEnoughAudienceStudentsIntellectualWorthyNot Worthy Author:Melissa Febos
“Most of the smart things I've ever thought or written came vis-a-vis my body.” Smart Author:Melissa Febos
“Listen to the cry of a woman in labor at the hour of giving birth - look at the dying man's struggle at his last extremity, and then tell me whether something that begins and ends thus could be intended for enjoyment.” MenGivingLooksEndsLastsDeathHoursStruggleDyingCryBirthLaborEnjoymentExistentialismBeginningPessimisticLife Is HardGiving BirthExtremityLife Is Not EasyBirth Life And Death Author:Soren Kierkegaard
“I have always trusted writers, books, thinkers, psychologists in figuring things out. Maybe because they don't know me, so they are always honest, if that makes sense. Their wisdom and counsel are always unconditional.” BookHonestMake SenseThinkerTrustedKnow MeUnconditionalPsychologist Author:Melissa Febos
“Letting go of the cozy stories you've been carrying around is devastating. But there's more room for new stuff after you do it.” Letting Go Author:Melissa Febos
“I can only see right in front of me when I'm writing, you know? I never think of it as raw or personal or anything but where I'm at in the moment. But I can see it sort of after I finish.” ThinkingWritingMoments Author:Melissa Febos
“I always listen to music when I write! I basically make a playlist for every essay; sometimes it's just one song, or three songs, over and over and over. I sort of find the emotional pitch of the piece, and then match music to it, and then the music becomes a shortcut to the feeling, so I can enter it and work anywhere: on planes, cafes, at work, the train.” WritingSometimesFeelingsSongEmotionalMusic IsTrainEssaysListening To Music Author:Melissa Febos
“Maybe feeling of presence in my body is why I've always sought out extreme experiences; it forces me to be in a moment, to face the fact of my existing in that particular moment, in my body.” MomentsFeelings Author:Melissa Febos
“I think that's the job of the writer, right? Not to introduce new ideas or feelings, but to name the ones we know most intimately but are afraid of speaking, or don't have the words. That's what I find most powerful anyway.” ThinkingFeelingsPowerfulMost PowerfulIntroducing Author:Melissa Febos