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“No one wakes up and says they want to be a gangbanger or a drug dealer- that's the last stop on the train. That what you do when you're drowning and reaching out for something- anything- to survive. By the time they get to the corner, there has been a series of things that led to that decision. No one wakes up at the top of the mountain and decides they would like it better down there on the bottom. They end up there out of desperation. We don't spend enough time examining the wider picture, the steps that get them there. We don't tell that part of the story. And to tell half the story is to spread a lie.”

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Book:Scenes from My Life: A Memoir
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Michael K. Williams
Michael K. Williams

Michael K. Williams is an accomplished American actor, born on November 22, 1966. He is known for his remarkable performances in various film and television projects, particularly for his unique acting style and profound character portrayals. more

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