“You're so much like my husband was. A great deal of self-love, an equal amount of self-pity. He felt that no one loved him—he was certainly right about that as far as I was concerned—and he thought that gave him the license to love himself. And to pity himself at the same time. Self-love is perhaps the greatest sin of all. It stifles the basic drive of man, which is to search for love until he finds it. Self-love is simply the easy way out; self-pity is the justification for it.”
Book:Lord of Dark Places