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“I also believe that forgiveness is appropriate only when parents do something to earn it. Toxic parents, especially the more abusive ones, need to acknowledge what happened, take responsibility, and show a willingness to make amends. If you unilaterally absolve parents who continue to treat you badly, who deny much of your reality and feelings, and who continue to project blame onto you, you may seriously impede the emotional work you need to do.”

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Book:Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
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Susan Forward
Susan Forward

Susan Forward is an American author born on May 14, 1938. She is renowned for her works in the field of psychology, particularly her books that delve into family dynamics and intimate relationships. more

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