Quotessence
Home / Quotes / Quote by David Brooks

Quote by David Brooks

“Being openhearted is a prerequisite for being a full, kind, and wise human being. But it is not enough. People need social skills. We talk about the importance of “relationships,” “community,” “friendship,” “social connection,” but these words are too abstract. The real act of, say, building a friendship or creating a community involves performing a series of small, concrete social actions well: disagreeing without poisoning the relationship; revealing vulnerability at the appropriate pace; being a good listener; knowing how to end a conversation gracefully; knowing how to ask for and offer forgiveness; knowing how to let someone down without breaking their heart; knowing how to sit with someone who is suffering; knowing how to host a gathering where everyone feels embraced; knowing how to see things from another’s point of view.”

Quote by David Brooks

Book:How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
Create image

Work

How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

Browse quotes and source details for this work. more

Author

David Brooks
David Brooks

David Brooks is an American commentator and writer known for his insightful views on political, cultural, and social issues. Born on August 11, 1961, he graduated from Columbia University and has served as a columnist for The New York Times. Brooks has also appeared on various television and radio programs as a commentator. more

You May Also Like

“In the present study, feedback from students indicate that regular training made them more aware of how working memory and impacts learning and the Majority reported that they now applied strategies in the classroom when activities became too difficult. This shift from disengaging from education when they were overloaded, to generating alternative solutions to meet their learning goals suggest that they were able to use their working memory skills with greater efficiency to direct their behavior. From computerized working memory training; can it lead to gains in cognitive skills in students?”

DisengagementWorking Memory
Author:Tracy Alloway
Create image

“Your actions bind you, because you think that you are the actions. Actions bind you, because you think that you are the doer. The "I", the ego, behind the actions goes on binding you to those actions. Through countless past lives this feeling of being the doer has become strengthened. You think that you are a great doer, while in reality there is no other doer than existence. How can you drop this attachments and karma? If someone becomes conscious that he is not the doer of the actions - all actions are the will of the whole and he is only a flute in existence hands. In that moment he is free of karma. If the bondage of karma is not destroyed, there is no freedom. A meditator says: Now I am not doing anything, everything is done by existence. If someone receives this insight both the bondage of present karma and the bondage of all past karma will vanish. Karma can be dissolved only when cut from the root - and the root is the ego, the sense of that "I" am doing. So the doer, the "I", has to dissolve. It is not necessary to focus on the actions, only the "I", the ego, has to be dissolved. Whenever there is a feeling that "I am doing this", remember that your are only the seer, the witness. Be a watcher. Whenever the feeling of "I" is there shift it to the watcher.”

TruthSpiritualityMeditationKarmaPast LifePast Life ExperiencesPast Life QuotesAwarenssReinkarnation
Book:When the Drop becomes the Ocean
Create image