“I believe that it is the relationship with self that sets the tone for every other relationship in our lives.”
Source: The Lifetimes of a Journey: My Amazing Journey of Coming Alive and the Power of Unconditional Self-Love
“Both my experiences of being well-loved on the one hand and being loved conditionally on the other influenced the development (or lack) of my self-love.”
Source: The Lifetimes of a Journey: My Amazing Journey of Coming Alive and the Power of Unconditional Self-Love
“Locate the mountains meant for you to climb. Climb them one at a time, and do so with the Lord by your side.”
Source: Coming to Grips with the Mountains and Valleys of This World
“I have moved through so many negative and positive feelings about myself. All of it has been conspiring to open my mind and my heart to who I am today.”
Source: The Lifetimes of a Journey: My Amazing Journey of Coming Alive and the Power of Unconditional Self-Love
“I hope that in sharing my experience and this wisdom, others in their own grieving process may find some hope in moving through their own experiences of loss.”
Source: The Lifetimes of a Journey: My Amazing Journey of Coming Alive and the Power of Unconditional Self-Love
“I had experienced unconditional love, I lost it, I started searching for it again . . . and then, I found it had been within me all along.”
Source: The Lifetimes of a Journey: My Amazing Journey of Coming Alive and the Power of Unconditional Self-Love
“Self-love is an act of holy disruption.
To love yourself in a world that profits directly from your self-loathing is the ultimate subversion of all that seeks to keep you tame.
We've been taught to hate all that we are (our softness, our fierceness, our not-enoughness, our too-muchness, our tender flesh, our hard bones, our voices, our insatiable hunger, our yearning for more, our aging, our youth, our ugly, our beauty, our all) so that we can be packaged into a commodity that sells us back to ourselves.
Our self-hatred is, in many ways, one of the pillars that capitalism and the patriarchy rely on to keep us small and contained, caged and corralled, safe and quietly in place.
To fall headfirst into a lifelong love affair with our purpose, our passion, our capacity, for pleasure, with the sound of our yes and the tenor of our no. With the reflection in the mirror. With the rich inner landscape of our fumbling and messy aliveness - this threatens the status quo.
As Naomi Wolf said, "Our appetites DO need to be controlled if things are to stay in place."
I don't know about you, but I'm at all not interested or invested in keeping things in place, in maintaining the status quo, in propping up a paradigm that's been trembling on its last legs for far too long.
I don't want to have to tamp down my desire, to contain the embers of my fire, to minimize the heat of my burn.
I want to love myself enough to always ask for more, and then I want to love myself harder so that I can expand wide enough to receive it when it comes. And no, I don’t think this is easy. Or simple. Or even always gentle.
But you loving you?
Like really, really loving you?
It subverts the whole damn thing.
It disrupts the narrative.
It flips the script.
It’s a way to reclaim all that has been taken.
To demand your seat at the table.
To call your wholeness home.”
“Sweetness, the only thing that has power over you is what you can't say, even to yourself. [...] Everything hurt needs sun and air to heal it.”
Source: The Star Side of Bird Hill
“Don't let me ever compete with anyone! If I'm a worm and no man, let me enjoy my life as a worm. Let me stop showing off to anyone... Let me live my life free from the opinions, good or bad, of all other people!”
Source: A Glastonbury Romance
“Nothing is wrong with and never was”
Source: There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate