“And, carrying this thought just a little further, in some ways, Carol was me and I no less was her. And I still am her, in some sense. Sometimes I describe how I feel these days by saying, "Well, now I'm Doug-&-Carol." Carol's hopes and dreams now reside in my brain; they grew there over the years, just as they grew inside her brain. They still flourish in mine, and in a small, diluted way, far less than before, some of Carol's soul, some of Carol's consciousness just a tiny fraction, to be sure, but still, not nothing at all - survives inside me, because of all the merging and blurring over years of intimacy. And I'm not the only one in whom Carol's way of looking at the world, her way of being, lives on to different degrees, she lives on inside those people who knew her intimately and loved her deeply: her family and her close friends.”
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Douglas Hofstadter
Douglas Hofstadter is an American cognitive scientist and writer renowned for his contributions to cognitive science, artificial intelligence, and literature. His research focuses on the nature of thought, the nature of consciousness, and the cognitive differences between humans and machines. more
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