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“At the surface of our life we are conscious of the many pressing problems that beset us, the conflicts, the anxieties, the angers, the decisions that we feel we must urgently make. But one reason that theIntensive Journal method has been effective for many people is that it practices an indirect approach to slowing our life problems. Rather than move head-on to encounter problems in the external form in which they appear in our lives, we step back and move inward to meet them at a deeper level.”

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At a Journal Workshop

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Ira Progoff
Ira Progoff

Ira Progoff was a renowned psychotherapist, born on August 2, 1921, and passed away on January 1, 1998. He had a significant impact in the field of psychotherapy, particularly known for his work with psychodrama and psychodramatic therapy techniques. more

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