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“The Practice of Staying Sometime this week, choose one conversation you have been avoiding or managing carefully because it feels charged, tender, or unresolved. Before you enter it, pause. Take three slow breaths. Say quietly to yourself: “I am here to stay in relationship, not to win.” During the conversation, practice one simple discipline: Do not interrupt. Do not correct. Do not prepare your reply while the other person is speaking. Listen long enough to be changed. You do not need to resolve anything. You do not need to persuade anyone. Your only commitment is presence. Afterward, notice what shifted inside you. Not what you achieved, but what you encountered. That is the field where wisdom grows.” — Cameron Trimble
The Practice of Staying
Sometime this week, choose one conversation you have been avoiding or managing carefully because it feels charged, tender, or unresolved.
Before you enter it, pause. Take three slow breaths. Say quietly to yourself: “I am here to stay in relationship, not to win.”
During the conversation, practice one simple discipline:
Do not interrupt.
Do not correct.
Do not prepare your reply while the other person is speaking.
Listen long enough to be changed. You do not need to resolve anything. You do not need to persuade anyone. Your only commitment is presence.
Afterward, notice what shifted inside you. Not what you achieved, but what you encountered. That is the field where wisdom grows.