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“We tend to focus overly on the externals: a certain sort of room, particular kinds of clothes, a certain level of hormones... But the most important ingredient in encouraging us to take off our clothes and present ourselves without inhibition or fear is - in the end - trust. Trust that a partner has our best interests at heart, that we aren't ever going to be mocked, that there is loyalty and long-term concern at play, that we are with someone who can be delicate with our feelings. Sex itself may be rough and powerful; the feelings behind sex must be anything but” — The School of Life
We tend to focus overly on the externals: a certain sort of room, particular kinds of clothes, a certain level of hormones... But the most important ingredient in encouraging us to take off our clothes and present ourselves without inhibition or fear is - in the end - trust. Trust that a partner has our best interests at heart, that we aren't ever going to be mocked, that there is loyalty and long-term concern at play, that we are with someone who can be delicate with our feelings. Sex itself may be rough and powerful; the feelings behind sex must be anything but