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“It is astounding how it's harder to find a person that you "really, really like" than it is to find someone "you love." Why is this? Because we accept the love that we think we deserve. And that usually is ANY love that wants to come along and love us. Also, we are very giving of our love. We love things that we don't like, all the time! We do in fact measure "love" based upon our ability to love the unloveable or the least loveable. If we can do that-- our love must be pure! We love a parent who made our lives hell, we explain away all their wrongdoings; we love someone who has abused us, beaten us up and betrayed us; we take pride in loving what is not loveable. And this is why romantic relationships fail left and right: because we should be with someone we really, really like. And that's harder to find. We should find someone whom we actually really dig, and who really digs us. A person. Not a concept of what we want to perform and enact just because we believe that makes us able to fulfill a "pure love". We cannot stay in toxic, unfulfilling relationships just because we love the person or just because they love us. We have to actually really, really like them and they us.”

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