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“For a girl, the fear of not being pretty is the fear of not being a valuable object, which is the fear of not being loved. It is a conflation that is instilled so early on and runs so deep that, even when you know it's a fear perpetrated by patriarchy, goaded by fashion magazines, and used to manipulate you into buying stuff, you still can't stop the way it affects you. Being a woke feminist doesn't mean you've overcome it, it just means you've learned to live with your perpetual self-loathing and your anger around it, too.”

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Book:No Walls and the Recurring Dream: A Memoir
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Ani DiFranco

Ani DiFranco is an American singer-songwriter celebrated for her independent spirit and political activism. She began her music career in the early 1990s, releasing her first album at the age of 21. DiFranco's music often tackles social and political issues, and she is renowned for her poetic lyrics and acoustic guitar playing. more

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