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“If you feel safe and loved, your brain becomes specialized in exploration, play, and cooperation; if you are frightened and unwanted it specializes in managing feelings of fear and abandonment.”

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“Fortunately, no matter how many times she is pushed down, she bounds up again. No matter how many times she is forbidden, quelled, cut back, diluted, tortured, touted as unsafe, dangerous, mad, and other derogations, she emanates upward in women, so that even the most quiet, even the most restrained woman keeps a secret place for Wild Woman, Even the more repressed woman has a secret life, with secret thoughts and secret feelings which are lush and wild, that is, natural. Even the most captured woman guards the place of the wildish self, for she knows intuitively that someday there will be a loophole, an aperture, a chance, and she will hightail it to escape.”

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Book:Women Who Run With the Wolves
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“Like many other men, Swann had a naturally lazy mind and lacked imagination. He knew perfectly well as a general truth that human life is full of contrasts, but in the case of each individual human being he imagined all that part of his or her life with which he was not familiar as being identical with the part with which he was. He imagined what was kept secret from him in the light of what was revealed.”

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Book:Swann’s Way
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“Then, there is the secret life. There, alone and in our own realm; Here, we fantasize about sex, romance, and being wealthy. No one knows. Except, when we cross over and violate societal mores. We betray, experience relationships that would be scorned in the other two lives. And to the extent we deviate from the norms, the greater amount of time is expended for clandestine pursuits. And we stay here, because it’s addictive. From the poem, "The Addictive Life.”

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Author:RJ Intindola – (Gandolfo) – 2003
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