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“Where am I asking others to take responsibility for my life? Let's face it - we would all love to be taken care of. We all are recovering children who project the dynamics of intrapsychic parent onto an institution, an ideology ...Growing up is ever more difficult because it requires letting go of old expectations of rescue and redemption. We are it; this is it; this is as good as it gets, and we better deal with it.”

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Book:Creating a Life: Finding Your Individual Path
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Creating a Life: Finding Your Individual Path

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James Hollis

James Hollis is a renowned author, born in 1940. His works primarily focus on psychology, philosophy, and spirituality, enjoying great popularity among readers. more

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