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“... just one more reminder that the rules are always different for girls, no matter who they are and no matter what they do.”

Quote by Roxane Gay

Work

Bad Feminist

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's Bad Feminist is a compilation of personal essays that delve into the nuances of feminism and its intersection with everyday life. The book addresses topics such as race, gender, and the media, offering a candid and often humorous look at the author's own experiences and the broader issues affecting women today. more

Author

Roxane Gay
Roxane Gay

Roxane Gay is an American writer born in 1974. Her works include novels, non-fiction, short stories, and essays. Her notable works are 'Bad Feminist' and 'Hunger'. Her writing style is characterized by humor, honesty, and profound self-reflection. more

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