“My father was always anxious to give pleasure to his children. Accordingly, he took me one day, as a special treat, to the top of the grand old tower, to see the chimes played.” GivingChildrenFatherPleasureSpecialOne DayTreatsAnxiousTowersChimes Book:James Nasmyth, Engineer: An Autobiography Source: James Nasmyth, Engineer: An Autobiography
“Children who are not encouraged to do, to try, to explore, to master, and to risk failure, often feel helpless and inadequate. Over-controlled by anxious, fearful parents, these children often become anxious and fearful themselves. This makes it difficult for them to mature. Many never outgrow the need for ongoing parental guidance and control. As a result, their parents continue to invade, manipulate, and frequently dominate their lives.” NeedsFeelsTryingChildrenParentDifficultResultsRiskMastersGuidanceMatureControlledAnxiousFearfulHelplessManipulateOngoingInadequateParentalParental Guidance Author:Susan Forward
“We deprive our children, our charges, of persistence. What I am trying to say is that we need to fail, children need to fail, we need to feel sad, anxious and anguished. If we impulsively protect ourselves and our children, as the feel-good movement suggests, we deprive them of learning-persistence skills.” IfsNeedsFeelsTryingChildrenFailingMovementProtectSkillsOur ChildrenFeel GoodPersistenceAnxious Author:Martin Seligman