“I worry about fast forgivers. They tend to forgive quickly in order to avoid their pain. Or they forgive fast in order to get an advantage over the people they forgive. And their instant forgiving only makes things worse... People who have been wronged badly and wounded deeply should give themselves time and space before they forgive... There is a right moment to forgive. We cannot predict it in advance; we can only get ourselves ready for it when it arrives... Don't do it quickly, but don't wait too long.” PeopleGivingShouldLongHas BeensMomentsPainOrderWaitingSpaceWorryReadyForgivenessAdvantageForgivingInstantWoundedTime And SpaceRight MomentWronged Author:Lewis B. Smedes
“Take it slowly. The deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt and pain. We think we're protecting ourselves by not forgiving. Acknowledge that and go easy on yourself. Forgiveness means that you've decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances.” IfsThinkingMeanPainEasyChallengesHurtPowerfulSupportHonorCircumstancesForgivenessToolsDecidedForgivingCome UpExtremesAcknowledgeResentmentNot ForgivingFesteringHurt And PainProtecting Ourselves Author:Howard Martin
“Forgiveness is the act of admitting we are like other people. We are prone to make mistakes that cause confusion, inflict pain, and miscommunicate our intentions ... The only choice we have is to reconcile ourselves to our own flaws and the flaws of other people, or withdraw from the community.” PeoplePainChoicesCausesCommunityMistakeForgivenessIntentionConfusionMaking MistakesFlawsReconcileAdmitting Author:Christina Baldwin