“When you are a member of an out-group, and you challenge others with whom you share this outsider position to examine some aspect of their lives that distorts differences between you, then there can be a great deal of pain.” PainChallengesDifferencesDealsGroupsSharePositionMembersAspectOutsidersSocial Change Book:Conversations with Audre Lorde Source: Conversations with Audre Lorde
“The proliferation of support groups suggests to me that too many Americans are growing up in homes that do not contain a grandmother. A home without a grandmother is like an egg without salt.... The emotionally satisfying discussions that take place in Chronic Pain Outreach and Depression Resources are simply updated versions of the grandmotherly practice of hanging crepe. We could eliminate much of the isolation that support groups exist to fill and save the "traditional family" that everybody is so worried about if more couples took their aging parents to live with them.” IfsHomePainParentPracticeSupportGrowing UpGrowingGroupsCoupleResourcesAgingVersionsTraditionalWorriedDiscussionIsolationGrandmotherEggsSatisfyingSaltProliferationChronic PainOutreachAging ParentsSupport GroupsCrepesTraditional Family Author:Florence King
“By identifying with the powerful, the disempowered achieve a measure of safety, at least for a moment. By doing the bidding of those in power, they become a necessary part of the system, useful so long as they serve to contain the stirrings and strivings of the oppressed. By making the rules and values of their oppressor their own, they separate themselves from the rest of their group and, temporarily at least, assuage the pain of their stigmatized status.” LongMomentsPainValuesPowerfulGroupsAchieveSafetyStriveOppressionOppressedOppressorsStirringIdentifyingBidding Book:Erotic Wars: What Happened to the Sexual Revolution? Source: Erotic Wars: What Happened to the Sexual Revolution?