“Asking for help with shame says: You have the power over me. Asking with condescension says: I have the power over you. But asking for help with gratitude says: We have the power to help each other.” HelpingGratitudeAskingShameOver YouHelping Each OtherCondescensionAsking For Help Author:Amanda Palmer
“American culture in particular has instilled in us the bizarre notion that to ask for help amounts to an admission of failure. But some of the most powerful, successful, admired people in the world seem, to me, to have something in common: they ask constantly, creatively, compassionately, and gracefully. And to be sure: when you ask, there's always the possibility of a no on the other side of the request. If we don't allow for that no, we're not actually asking, we're either begging or demanding. But it is the fear of the no that keeps so many of our mouths sewn tightly shut.” PeopleIfsWorldHelpingSeemsCultureAsksSidesPowerfulCommonSuccessfulPossibilityParticularAmountMouthsAskingNotionMost PowerfulBizarreAmerican CultureRequestBeggingAdmission Author:Amanda Palmer
“When you really look back and take the wider perspective, it makes total sense that if the status quo is to remain the way it is, women will not be lauded and applauded for bonding with and helping each other, because it would destroy the world order if women organized; it would topple the whole thing. And so, it makes perfect sense to me that the current order of things would encourage the cat fights and encourage the comparisons and encourage the girl-on-girl hate that you see just being promoted everywhere.” IfsWorldWayLooksWholeHelpingHateOrderGirlFightingPerfectPerspectiveCatCurrentsOrganizedComparisonJust BeingStatus QuoWorld OrderBondingHelping Each Other Author:Amanda Palmer
“There are so many people, so many artists, so many magazines, so many theater companies, so many people trying to raise money for so many things that it's easy to look around and just feel powerless or helpless, because even if you have some resources, you can't help everybody.” PeopleIfsFeelsTryingLooksHelpingArtistEasyCompanyResourcesTheaterRaisesMagazinesHelplessPowerless Author:Amanda Palmer
“I have a handful of really close relationships in my life and I depend on those people heavily to carry me through and to help me stay steady.” PeopleHelpingDependsHelp MeSteadyHandfulClose Relationship Author:Amanda Palmer
“I nurture my close relationships like priceless lamps. That's part of why the job itself is inherently difficult and kind of a paradox, because you're out there touring and traveling and going a million miles a minute, but the things that are keeping you steady and stable can be really hard to nurture when you're going fast, and your relationships, which are the number one thing that help me through.” KindHardHelpingJobsDifficultNumbersMillionsOne ThingMinutesMilesHelp MeParadoxSteadyStableOur RelationshipNurtureLampsTouringPricelessClose Relationship Author:Amanda Palmer
“The perfect tools aren't going to help us if we can't face each other and give and receive fearlessly, but more important, to ask without shame.” IfsGivingImportantHelpingFacesAsksPerfectToolsShameGiving And Receiving Author:Amanda Palmer
“When we really see each other, we want to help each other.” WantHelpingHelping HandHelping Each Other Author:Amanda Palmer
