“Life is a continuous process of unlearning for minorities and anyone with less power. These groups - women, people of color, and, in the next chapter, disabled people - can find it very difficult to claim asexuality because it looks so much like the product of sexism, racism, ableism, and other forms of violence. The legacy of this violence is that those who belong to a group that has been controlled must do the extra work to figure out the extent to which we are still being controlled.” PsychologySociologyAsexuality Author:Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex.
“Straight people are rarely treated like they're close-minded for knowing their sexual orientation, but aces are assumed to be unsure and always on the brink of finding the person who will change everything.” PsychologySociologyAsexuality Author:Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex.
“The logical implication of these messages about the necessity of sex is that asexuality is an existential threat to any hope of a lasting relationship. Asexuality begins to feel like a twisted, reverse version of the scarlet A, a modern brand that now stands for ace and alone. It's no wonder that people hate the idea that they might be ace, if not wanting sex for any reason is a death sentence for romance.” RomanceSexAsexuality Author:Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex.