“(In reference to swingers) In the meantime, if you wish to declare yourself polyamorous, get used to the fact that the confusion is gong to remain as a pejorative. Sure, clear up the misunderstanding as much as you can, but don't put too much effort into setting yourself up as a "good", responsible, community-oriented polyamorist by contrasting yourself to the "bad" swingers - they may not be your siblings, but they're definitely your cousins.” LoveRelationshipsCommunityPolyamorySwinging Book:Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful Source: Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful
“Polyamorous people are wary of having others' values inflicted upon themselves, and so tend to stay very far away from making such pronouncements, to the point that they will actively ignore predatory behavior that is affecting their own "community.” LoveRelationshipsCommunityPolyamory Book:Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful Source: Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful