“Slowly, over many months, as my head came out of the sand, a form of joy set in —joy born of replacing the not knowing with knowing, the nub of worry with clarity, the lack of control with control...I thought, 'this is better than everything I lost. This is better than the life I thought I wanted.” CapabilitySelf RelianceMarried Life Book:Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage Source: Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage