“Emotionally stable parents share their children’s joy and quiet their fear. But caretaking roles are reversed for children of borderlines whose mothers are chronically upset. Children repress their fear in order to calm their mother. Situations that should frighten children may not because they have learned not to feel.” MotherParentsChild AbuseEmotional AbuseBorderlineAbusive ParentsBpdAbusive MotherAbusive Women Book:Understanding the Borderline Mother Source: Understanding the Borderline Mother
“The Queen is controlling, the Witch is sadistic, the Hermit is fearful, and the Waif is helpless. And each requires a different approach. Don't let the Queen get the upper hand; be wary even of accepting gifts because it engenders expectations. Don't internalize the Hermit's fears or become limited by them. Don't allow yourself to be alone with the Witch; maintain distance for your own emotional and physical safety. And with the Waif, don't get pulled into her crises and sense of victimization. Pay attention to your own tendencies to want to rescue her, which just feeds the dynamic.” MotherPsychologyAdviceBorderline Personality Disorder Book:Understanding the Borderline Mother Source: Understanding the Borderline Mother