“From the time of the initial contact the abusive man is already beginning the abuse of the target woman. Firstly he is seeking a woman who exhibits some particular characteristics. Even before he begins to make contact with her he has already decided what sort of partner he is seeking. This decision is built on a belief that the relationship he seeks is one where he will be in charge. So it is disrespectful of these men to suggest that they are in an abusive relationship by chance. The truth is that the relationship they are in is the result of careful monitoring of the type of person they target.” AbuseManipulationDominanceAbusersFaultTargeting Book:How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser Source: How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser