“I consulted a trauma expert who travels to communities devastated by natural disasters. When she meets with suffering people, she often asks this question, “Where are you feeling the pain in your body?” She wants to know if they want to talk about their emotions or if they need to talk about what’s happening physically to them. I used this advice when I recently met with a grieving friend. I wasn’t sure what to ask her, so I sat with her, cried, and then asked, “How are you feeling the grieving in your body?” She loved the question. Nobody had ever asked her this, and she wanted to talk about all the trembling and nausea she was feeling.” SufferingConversationTraumaQuestionsPhysical Body Book:The Six Conversations: Pathways to Connecting Again in an Age of Isolation and Incivility Source: The Six Conversations: Pathways to Connecting Again in an Age of Isolation and Incivility