“Perhaps you have had the experience of ending a long relationship; you managed to go through with it but can still remember agonizing for months, maybe years, before you did it. Afterward, it seemed like everything reminded you of your ex and made you question your decision. Maybe you remember how lonely you were at first and how long it took before you figured out what to do with the time you used to spend together. ... The point is that change is hard for everyone. It takes learning - learning new ways of thinking about ourselves and the world, learning new behaviors, learning to tolerate the pace of change, and learning to live without the old routine. Keeping this in mind in a matter-of-fact rather than pessimistic way can help you stay calm and patient and go on living your life through the ups, downs, and unexpected parts of change.” GrowthChangeLearningImprovement Book:Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change Source: Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change
“Research has demonstrated that in order to change, we don't unlearn behaviors; we have to learn alternatives.” GrowthChangeLearningHabitsChanging Book:Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change Source: Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change