“Ruptures should inform the shape of relationships going forward. we should relate differently based on what's happened, now that we've learned something about who the other actually is and who we are. if not, we risk falling into the same patterns that didn't work before.” RelationshipsChangeRupture Book:What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World Source: What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World