“I go to the grave shared by my father and Jimmy. The question I get most, the one I hate, is why I went into his room. And why I helped people. Again and again, "Why did you do it? How?" The answer is, How could I not? The real question is, How could *you* not?” LoveCompassion Book:All the Young Men: A Memoir of Love, AIDS, and Chosen Family in the American South Source: All the Young Men: A Memoir of Love, AIDS, and Chosen Family in the American South