“When it is not good enough to BE good, and we want people to also THINK we are good, then we are likely to protect our reputations in destructive ways.” Reputations Book:The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises - Library Edition Source: The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises - Library Edition