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“Spoil me differently! Spoil me with your love, honesty, and commitment. Spoil me with respect, honor, and appreciation. Spoil me with engaging conversations. Spoil me with your attentiveness. Spoil me by being kind, understanding, and genuine. Spoil me with laughter and let’s create memorable memories together. Spoil me by giving me your heart wholeheartedly. Spoil me baby, and I vow to do the same. Material things are okay, but nothing compares to knowing and feeling that you’re genuinely loved. Any man can buy a woman gifts, but it takes a special King to love his Queen properly.”

“Dear Exquisite Black Queens… Before you start making relationship goals, make sure that the relationship you have with yourself is healthy, first. Are you trying to fill a void? Do you respect yourself? Do you have low or high self-esteem? Are you living with a painful secret? Are you damaged from past relationships? Do you have a hidden agenda? Do you have a nasty attitude? Are you a complicated woman? Do you like to start arguments and keep up drama? Are you angry about something that you never dealt with? I could literally go on and on, but I think you get my point. What is YOUR truth? You’ve got to be honest with yourself! Do you authentically love yourself, or are you searching for something? Your number one relationship goal should be with YOU. Learn to love, respect, appreciate, value, and be good to yourself. Self-Love comes first, Queens!”

“I’m an Exquisite Black Queen! No man’s material possessions are worth more than ME. So, NO, I won’t stay just because he’s got a substantial amount of money, a luxurious home, properties, vehicles, expensive jewelry, etc. I will NOT disrespect myself by staying with a man that doesn’t genuinely value our relationship. Material things are just a bonus to me… I can’t and won’t be bought! Staying in a relationship with a man that cheats on me is NOT an option, PERIOD. Integrity, faithfulness, commitment, and respect are mandatory. I’m a Phenomenal Black Woman! I won’t settle for excuses or foul behavior.”

“Any man can buy a woman gifts, take her out for dinner, drinks, and a movie, take her on luxury vacations, treat her to spa days and shopping sprees, but here me out, Queens… It takes a special King to love his Queen properly. All of the things that I’ve listed above should be a bonus, NOT the main factor of your relationship. There’s nothing like being in a relationship with a man who’s FULLY committed to you. He’s an attentive man… He sees and hears you, he’s loving, respectful, supportive, faithful, and he appreciates you. His dedication to you is priceless!”

“Dear Black Women… I STRONGLY encourage you to start holding yourself accountable for the choices that you make when choosing a man. Stop being desperate for attention and easily flattered. Self-love sets the standard in how we allow others to treat us. Queens, you’ve got to value who YOU are. Work on your self-esteem and learn to GENUINELY love and respect yourself. Stop complaining about the men YOU keep choosing to entertain. It starts with YOU. Strive to be a Woman of substance so you can attract a Man of substance.”

“Many people lack discipline when it comes to saving money. What good is having a bunch of stuff if you’re struggling, in debt, or broke most of the time? So many people put up a front like they’ve got it going on, but they know the truth. They spend all of their money trying to look important, and/or keep up an image. Knowledge is everything! Educate yourself about money, investing, and saving. I encourage you to start investing in yourself instead of things! Set yourself up for a better future and start making better choices. Building wealth takes time! Have discipline. Save. Stay consistent. Be brave enough to change your spending habits. Be wise! Don’t allow money to control you. Strive to have a healthy relationship with money!”

“Imagine if ALL employers treated ALL of their employees with the same respect no matter what their job title was. Imagine going to work every day knowing that you and your work were valued. Unfortunately, we live in a society where some people allow their job titles to go to their head. I encourage you NOT to be one of those people. No matter what your position is, at the end of the day, EVERYBODY matters in the workplace, and every position serves a purpose. I firmly believe that how you treat others is a direct reflection of who you REALLY are. Personally, I choose integrity!”

“It’s okay to celebrate yourself… It’s okay to see the best in yourself… It’s okay to be proud of yourself… It’s okay to think and speak highly of yourself… It’s OKAY. Yes, you can be humble, but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with acknowledging your OWN self, too! If nobody else celebrates with you or for you, be your OWN motivation, inspiration, and encouragement… Keep allowing your greatness to shine bright!”

“Black Girls… Be very mindful of your attitude. Having the wrong attitude can cause you to lose out on great opportunities. Be optimistic, give yourself a chance, and don’t be afraid to branch outside of your comfort zone. Don’t be so quick to say what you can’t do. Give yourself permission to explore new and exciting things! It’s okay to be nervous, scared, and unsure, but don’t allow fear to keep you from TRULY living. Enjoy life to the fullest on YOUR own terms. Don’t doubt yourself, trust yourself!”

“Some of my Black sistas don’t know any better, so I’d like to give them some enlightening food-for-thought. Many of them are in awe when it comes to Michelle Obama. They admire and celebrate her intelligence and beauty. For many Black women, she’s a positive and powerful role model. Our former First Lady is phenomenal to say the least! She’s a lawyer, writer, and she fearlessly wears many other hats with integrity and grace. But, here’s what I’d like to point out: If you can admire and celebrate her, why can’t you do the same for YOUR family and friends? Why is it that when people that you personally know obtain degrees, start a successful business, buy a home, are financially secure, happily married, etc… Here you go hatin’ on them. Why can’t you genuinely be happy for them and share in their greatness? I encourage you to celebrate the Black women around you, too!”

“Dear Black Girls… Don’t get caught up in following the crowd. Everybody wants to fit in, but don’t degrade yourself trying to be a part of the in-crowd. Getting high, drunk, and being promiscuous is NOT the way to go. Peer pressure is VERY real, but the choices that you make can literally ruin your life. Choose your friends wisely! Making the wrong choices can lead you down a path of destruction, hurt, pain, and lost dreams. Don’t be so easily influenced… Value who you are and have some self-respect!”

“Black Girls… If you ever find yourself being the only black girl in the room, hold your head up high and know with 100% confidence that you belong there, too! There’s no need for you to feel intimidated. You are GREATNESS… You are EXQUISITE… You are POWERFUL, and you ROCK.”

“Black Girls… I dare you to take your education seriously! I dare you to stay in school and get your high school diploma. I dare you to go to college and obtain a degree. I dare you to believe in your ideas and become an entrepreneur or start your own business. I dare you to create multiple streams of income for yourself. I dare you to read, learn, and educate yourself. I dare you to save and invest your money wisely. It’s important to invest in YOU. You’re NOT too young to walk into your GREATNESS. I dare you to succeed without apology!”

“Mentally, emotionally, verbally, and physically abusing your children is NOT okay. Good parenting does NOT consist of bullying your children, belittling your children, manipulating your children, beating your children, or cursing at your children. I encourage you to create a safe, loving, healthy, and nurturing environment for your children.”

“Dear Black Communities… Our Black Boys Matter! I encourage y’all to invest in our black male youth by inspiring, celebrating, and empowering them. They need our wisdom, love, support, encouragement, direction, and positive examples to follow. Let’s support and encourage our young Kings in becoming confident, knowledgeable, strong, well-rounded, and powerful black men with integrity. It’s imperative that we set them up for greatness early on in life. Let’s change the narrative of raising broken black males! Let’s raise our black boys to be black men that ROCK in every area of their life. It’s up to us to prepare, teach, educate, and empower them!”

“I encourage women and girls all over the world to stop mentally abusing themselves by comparing themselves to others and negative self-talk… To love and accept themselves for who THEY are because that’s true woman and girl power… There’s no greater love than the unconditional love that you give to yourself… Female power starts within!”