“My grip loosened on the wheel. Or was it, the world? It was such a small, passing moment. Which is where many of our monumental shifts happen. It is not the grand stage, but the quiet kitchen, the silent dining room, the bedrooms, the drives home, where gayness, my gayness, reveals itself. Drag shows are spectacles. Television shows provide a comforting illusion that life progresses. That we no longer need to live in fear. But we do. We do live in fear.” FearGayComing OutSmall MomentsGaynessBig Moments Book:Boys and Oil: Growing Up Gay in a Fractured Land Source: Boys and Oil: Growing Up Gay in a Fractured Land