“Regarding punishment, we've learned from the downfall of Harvey Weinstein and other famous men not only that times have changed, but also that ostracism is an efficient tool. It reminds me of the tradition of bathroom lists of sexual assaulters at Brown beginning in 1990. Back then the administrators called the students who wrote them "magic marker terrorists" and threatened them with expulsion if caught. Now a Shitty Media Men list can dominate the news for days as HR departments across the coasts hastily assess their employees and their liability.” MenMagicChangedStudentsTraditionTerroristEmployeeBathroomDownfallLiability Author:Vanessa Grigoriadis
“Students at residential universities often live together and spend time on activities that aren't connected with the university. Then, should the university's rules about sexual consent extend to students' private lives? In my book, I argue that these narrow rules should extend to students' private lives no matter what or where they happen to be conducting those lives. The logic is that sexual assault is a form of discrimination and denies the victim an equal education. The point of university life is to get that diploma and nothing should stand in the way.” BookTogetherStudentsEqualLogicVictimArguingDiscriminationEnd TimesSpend Time Author:Vanessa Grigoriadis
“If we agree that universities need to monitor sexual violence in various locations, and that they will require students to hew to a narrower set of rules than the wider world, how do we deal with putting these ideas into the brains of teenagers who have been schooled in the disgusting gender norms of our American culture for the previous eighteen years? This is the essential conundrum. Can we teach these relatively young dogs new tricks? I believe that we can.” WorldBelieveCultureI BelieveBrainTeachViolenceDogStudentsAgreeVariousGenderTeenagerDisgustingNormAmerican CultureEighteen Author:Vanessa Grigoriadis
“I also believe that upending ingrained ideas about what assault is a gun to the head, a stranger, a parking lot and what consent looks like a woman who gives a no really means yes is very messy. And part of the messiness is some students - and yes, usually these are liberal students - over-determining the definition of assault.” GivingBelieveMeanStudentsGunStrangerMessyReally MeanParking Lot Author:Vanessa Grigoriadis
“Let's reach the students who will abide by a "yes means yes" standard in sexual behavior and reeducate them to use it. And as more and more of them use it, others will adopt it too. We're on our way to a new social norm and that's a beautiful thing.” MeanBeautifulStudentsBehaviorBeautiful ThingsNorm Author:Vanessa Grigoriadis