“Some find that they can keep bereavement at bay by staying busy. This is a perfectly normal way of coping which works well for some – but if you keep bereavement away by constant action, you may pay for it later. The action may turn out to be an avoidance technique, like putting a finger on the pause button on the bereavement video. When you stop doing whatever you were doing – going to parties, helping others, seeing movies – you still return home to a film which hasn’t moved on since you stopped watching it.” Death Of A Loved OneBereavementCoping StrategiesCoping With Death Book:Youll Get Over It: The Rage Of Bereavement Source: Youll Get Over It: The Rage Of Bereavement
“When you’re bereaved you’re so all over the place that you might find a book heart-warming on a Tuesday and mindless nonsense on a Wednesday.” ReadingSelf HelpBereavement Book:Youll Get Over It: The Rage Of Bereavement Source: Youll Get Over It: The Rage Of Bereavement
“Death makes us face up to our own mortality. When my father died and I was suddenly parentless, I felt pushed into the firing line. It was as if I’d been sitting in a trench all those years smoking my cigarettes and brewing tea in my billycan while everyone had been out there getting shot, and suddenly my officer had shouted: ‘OK, Ironside! Over the top!’ Now I was in no-parents’-land with snipers all around. I was next. We have to face the fact that we will die, that we will die alone. We have to face the truth that even with others we basically always are alone, and that unless we give it meaning, life is meaningless.” MortalityBereavementParentless Book:Youll Get Over It: The Rage Of Bereavement Source: Youll Get Over It: The Rage Of Bereavement