“To say goodbye, is to die a little. To say good morning, is a hope for a new sunshine in a cloudy winter.” Quote by Nabil TOUSSI
“The truth is, we tend to train people how we want to be treated. If others know you have wishy-washy boundaries then they are free to walk all over you; the results…you become a doormat. We have actually trained others to do this when we will allow people to wipe their muddy feet on us. After all, we are doormats.” LoveChangeBoundariesRecoveryFamiliesCodependencyDysfunctionalDoormat Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. The more I expanded my gray areas (more than 50 shades), the more peace I experienced in my life.” LoveChangeShameRecoveryBlack And WhiteGreyFamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have embraced a dysfunctional lifestyle, passing these habits as gospel on to subsequent generations. This was not done out of malice, spite, or hate, but what they knew best. As ineffective as these habits are, you never stopped to consider another way of loving.” LoveJoyShameRecoveryFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctionalAcceptence Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“No mean person is mean all the time. The whole point of being mean is to fluctuate so that you can hold out the hope for someone. So someone will hold out the hope that they're gonna catch you on the sunny side or that you're gonna be nice this time. The tyranny is inconsistency. Somebody thats consistently mean is something that is pretty easy to sort out. The reality is that the meanest people can be wonderful sometimes. That's the whole point of meanness because otherwise it's too obvious. It's the niceness that gets you trapped in the dysfunction. That is the problem and so the fact that you have this belief that there is hope in the relationship is foundational to the dysfunction.” RelationshipsRelationshipTyrannyMeannessDysfunctionNicenessDysfunctional Author:Stefan Molyneux
“Black and white thinking limits understanding and feedback, two necessary ingredients for successful resolution in creative conflict and successful understanding.” ThinkingLoveChangeTrustCommunicationChaosRecoveryControlBlack And WhiteFamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“No one escapes some degree of chaos for it is so ever prevalent; it is the human experience. This realization does not mean we can’t improve. It does mean we can accept our state of chaos, lighten up on ourselves, have fun, and work on improving…we are a work in progress. Enjoy the journey.” LoveJoyChangeProgressShameChaosRecoveryJourney Of LifeFamiliesDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Acceptance is the most beautiful word in any language; this beautiful concept can only exist when you allow other people to be who they are and do not imprison them with your definition of what is right, proper, correct, or other limiting criteria. Decreasing the black and white in your thinking allows for an expansive area of gray, allowing you to live your life and others to live there life. Acceptance sets us all free! This simple change of thought creates a wonderful space for happiness to thrive.” LoveChangeRecoveryDysfunctionalAcceptenceFamlies Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” LoveChangeFamilyChaosBoundariesRecoveryDysfunctionalCommunicatoin Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“Many of the habits of dysfunctional families use are not from the lack of love but are the result of fear. Knowing the love-limiting habits and behaviors of dysfunctional families is a wonderful beginning to lower the fear, allowing us to be real, allowing us all to learn how to love better.” LoveJoyFearChangeShameRecoveryHabitsDysfunctional FamiliesDysfunctional Author:David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough
“I suppose it must be admitted that I was raised in a "dysfunctional" family, but in truth, I do not think I had any sense of that as I was growing up. Probably part of the reason was that all of my extended kin had families at least as dysfunctional as mine. Just to give a little of the flavor of it, my "Aunt Fern," who lived just across the street and was one of the most present and puissant female relatives in my life, was, to be genealogically precise, my mother's brother's, first wife's, second husband's, father's, 3rd, 4th, and 5th wife. (She married "Uncle Lew" three times in the course of her seven matrimonial ventures.)” FamilyRelativeGenealogyDysfunctional Author:Carlfred Broderick