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“Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met.”

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Marshall B. Rosenberg

Marshall B. Rosenberg was a renowned psychologist known for his theory of Nonviolent Communication. His theory emphasizes the importance of listening and expressing needs to promote harmonious relationships. Rosenberg was born on October 6, 1934, and passed away on February 7, 2015. more

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