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“Cred că se face confuzie între termenul experiență și traumă. Experiența te face un om mai bogat, trauma nu. O persoană, fie că e bărbat sau femeie, dacă nu are dorința firească și naturală de a explora, de a cunoaște, de a experimenta, e bolnavă. Dacă nu e bolnavă, mai rămâne posibilitatea că trăiește într-un mediu nepotrivit, iar expunerea la mediul nesănătos o poate afecta. Nu poți sa te închizi în casă, să te sigilezi de lume și să pretinzi că ești sănătos pentru a te feri de ce se întâmplă în afara casei.”

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Book:Sexualitatea astăzi, între sacru și banal. Ghid de supraviețuire în jungla urbană
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