“Often, knowing the language of a given prediction is more important than understanding exactly what a person says. The key is understanding the meaning and the perspective beneath and behind the words people choose. When predicting violence, some of the languages include: The language of rejection The language of entitlement The language of grandiosity The language of attention seeking The language of revenge The language of attachment The language of identity seeking Attention seeking, grandiosity, entitlement, and rejection are often linked. Think of someone you know who is always in need of attention, who cannot bear to be alone or to be unheard. Few people like being ignored, of course, but to this person it will have a far greater meaning.”
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Book:The Gift of Fear
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Gavin de Becker
Gavin de Becker is a renowned author and security expert, known for his work on personal and public safety, as well as psychological tactics. His books, 'The Gift of Fear' and 'Fearless', have gained widespread popularity around the world and have been translated into multiple languages. more
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