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“Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy. . . . I have often said to parents, "If it isn't illegal, immoral, orfattening, give it your blessing." We do much better . . . if we find and support all the places we can appropriately say yes, and say only the no's that really matter.”

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Virginia Satir
Virginia Satir

American psychologist and author, known as a pioneer in the field of family therapy. Her work has had a profound impact on personal growth and family therapy. more

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