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“In a difficult marriage, both of us have failed each other. Even though one may be the major problem,you also have failed often in the way you have responded to them, the way you have treated them, in the way you have handled your hurt and your pain.”

Quote by Gary Chapman

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Gary Chapman, born on January 10, 1938, is an American author. He is renowned for his book 'The Five Love Languages', which explores how people express and receive love in five different ways. more

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