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“Nimeni n-ar trebui să devină vreodată "preș" în fața cuiva. Putem îngădui să fim folosiți, dar să nu uităm că suntem oameni și avem emoții, gânduri și dorințe. Avem capacitatea să luăm hotărâri și să trecem la fapte. Faptul că ne lăsăm folosiți sau manipulați de celălalt nu este o dovadă de iubire. Este, în realitate, un act de trădare. Îi permiți partenerului să-și cultive obiceiuri inumane. Iubirea grăiește astfel: "Te iubesc prea mult ca să te las să mă tratezi așa. Nu e bine nici pentru tine, nici pentru mine.”

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Book:The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
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“Being in love is an emotional and obsessive experience. However, emotions change and obsessions fade. Research indicates that the average life span of the "in love" obsession is two years. For some it may last a bit longer; for some, a bit less. But the average is two years. Then we come down off the emotional high and those aspects of life that we disregarded in our euphoria begin to become important. Our differences begin to emerge and we often find ourselves arguing with the person whom we once though to be perfect. We have now discovered for ourselves that being in love is not the foundation for a happy marriage.”

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“وهذا ينطبق على الحب أيظا، فنحن نكتشف لغة الحب الأساسية لشريكنا في الحياة، ونختارأن نتحدّث بها بغض النظر عما إذا كانت من طبيعتنا أم لا، ولا نطالب بمشاعر دافئة و مثيرة، ولكننا نختار ببساطة أن نفعل هذا الشيء لراحته، فنحن نرغب في أن نلبي الإحتياجات العاطفية لشريكنا في الحياة ونتواصل لكي نتحدّث لغته للحب، وبهذه الطريقة يتم ملء خزّان الحب لديه، ومن المرجح أن يرد الشيء بمثله، ويتحدّث لغة الحب الخاصة بنا، وعندما يفعل هذا، تعود مشاعرنا من جديد، ويبدأ خزان الحب في الإمتلاء. الحب إختيار، ويمكن لأي من الطرفين أن يبدأ في هذه العملية اليوم.”

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Book:The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
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“** إن فهم اللغات الخمس للحب وتعلم كيفية التحدث باللغة الاساسية للحب لشريك حياتك من الممكن أن يؤثر بشكل كبير على سلوك الزوج أو الزوجة فإن الناس يتصرفون بشكل مختلف عندما يكون خزان الحب لديهم ممتلئا.”

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Book:The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
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“Love says to a husband, ‘I love you too much to help you do wrong. I will not sit here and let you destroy yourself and me by cursing me every night. I cannot make you stop cursing, but I will not be here to receive it tonight. If you want to make our lives better, then I am open. But I won’t be a part of letting you destroy me.’ “Your attitude is not to be one of abandonment but of love,” (...)“ there is never a time to stop loving someone, but there is a time to start expressing that love in a different, more effective manner. Love is not letting someone step on you. Love is caring so much for their well-being that you refuse to play into their sick behavior. Many people are healed when someone loves them enough to stand up to their inappropriate actions.”

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Book:Hope For the Separated: Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed
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“Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with its openness, hope, and anticipation. On still other occasions we bask in the warmth of summer--comfortable, relaxed, enjoying life. And then comes fall with its uncertainty, negligence, and apprehension. The cycle repeats itself many times throughout the life of a marriage, just as the seasons repeat themselves in nature.”

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“Ask yourself: Does the action I am considering have any potential for dealing with the wrong and helping the relationship? And is it best for the person at whom I am angry? The two most constructive options are either to confront the person in a helpful way, or to consciously decide to overlook the matter.”

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Book:Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion
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“Others who openly discuss matters of spirituality often ignore the warning signs. They are so in love with each other, enjoy being with each other, and can see themselves making each other happy for the rest of their lives, and they close their eyes to huge differences in their views of spirituality.”

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Book:Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married
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“Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving.”

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Book:The 5 Love Languages/The 5 Love Languages Men's Edition/The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers/The 5 Love Lan
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“Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving marriage. Love need not evaporate after the wedding, but in order to keep it alive most of us will have to put forth effort to learn a secondary love language. We cannot rely on our native tongue if our spouse does not understand it. If we want them to feel the love we are trying to communicate, we must express it in his or her primary love language.”

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Book:The 5 Love Languages/The 5 Love Languages for Men Set
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