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“My response to the American PR team that criticized my protagonist's proclivities in the bedroom as non-feminist (just before they dropped my novel as "too controversial"): "Ellie, like many women, is incongruous. What she needs to pave a way in the outside world is not the same as what she needs behind closed doors. This is relatable, not alienating. I'm telling women it's ok to want what you want without apologizing. I'm telling them that getting (demanding!) exactly what you desire sexually is plenty feminist.”

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Book:The Covert Buccaneer
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