“I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. That if you are living with an alcoholic or living with a depressed spouse for a long time, you are just going to be unhappy.” IfsThinkingLongEnvironmentLong TimeDetermineMythUnhappySpouseAlcoholicsOur Environment Author:Gary Chapman
“If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, then there is really no hope for you to have a good relationship. That is another myth that we have to throw off, so that we can get into what I call Reality.” IfsRealityGrewGrew UpMythNo HopeGood RelationshipDysfunctional Family Author:Gary Chapman
“One [reality] is that I am responsible for my attitude. I can be in prison, and I happen to get a chance to go outside. I can look at the mud, or I can look at the stars. I am the one who decides which way to look. That is true for every one of us.” WayLooksI CanRealityHappensStarsChanceAttitudeResponsiblePrisonMudMy Attitude Author:Gary Chapman
“We can look at the pain in our lives. We can look at the way we have been mistreated, and we can have an attitude of, I will never amount to anything. I have been wrong about people all my life. I am going to pay somebody back for this.” PeopleWayLooksHas BeensPainPayAttitudeOur LivesAmountMistreated Author:Gary Chapman
“We can choose the attitude that says, I have been wronged. People have hurt me, but with the help of God, I am going to learn how to return good for evil, and I am going to make a difference in this world.” PeopleWorldHas BeensHelpingEvilDifferencesHurtAttitudeThis WorldReturnMaking A DifferenceHurt MeWronged Author:Gary Chapman
“My attitude affects my actions. So, if I have a negative attitude about it, then it is going to show up in the way I respond, but if I have a positive attitude, then I start looking for the things I can do that will make my life better and make the lives of people around me better.” PeopleIfsWayI CanShowsActionCan DoAttitudeNegativePositive AttitudeMy AttitudeNegative AttitudeHaving A Positive Attitude Author:Gary Chapman
“I cannot change others, but I can influence others... we can't change people, but we can and we do influence people, and we do it every single day.” PeopleI CanInfluenceCan't ChangeInfluencing PeopleCan't Change People Author:Gary Chapman
“If I walk in the house, and I greet my wife, and I give her a hug, kiss her on the cheek, and I say to her, "Honey, how'd your day go," and I listed to how her day went. If I say, "Is there anything I can do to help you," and she tells me, "Honey, if you could peel the potatoes," or whatever, I have influenced my wife in a very positive way.” IfsWayGivingI CanHelpingHouseCan DoWalksWifeKissingMy WifeHoneyCheeksHugPotatoesVery Positive Author:Gary Chapman
“On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and flip on the TV, get myself something to drink, sit down, start unwinding, I have influenced my wife in a very negative way.” IfsWayHandsHouseWalksWifeTvsDrinkNegativeMy WifeBotherFlipDens Author:Gary Chapman
“Our most basic common link is that we all inhabit this planet. We all breathe the same air. We all cherish our children's future. And we are all mortal.” InspirationalChildrenMotivationalScienceDeathPeaceCommonAirDyingPlanetsFutureDiversityOur ChildrenBreatheMortalsCherishLinksOur FutureBrotherhoodMy FutureMissilesUnity In DiversityCommon InterestsInspirational DiversityProfiles In CourageCuban Missile CrisisFuture Development Author:John F. Kennedy