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“From Memorial Day to Labor Day, you may wear white shoes. Not before and not after. As a command, the White Shoe Edict should be clear and simple enough. Do not violate it. In a society in which everything else has become relative, a matter of how it makes you feel, a question between you and your conscience, and an opportunity for you to be really you, this is an absolute.”

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Book:Miss Manners' Guide for the Turn-of-the-Millennium
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Miss Manners' Guide for the Turn-of-the-Millennium

This book offers practical advice on navigating the social complexities of the new millennium, including proper conduct in various social situations, communication skills, and the evolution of etiquette in a rapidly changing world. more

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Judith Martin
Judith Martin

Judith Martin, known by her pen name Miss Manners, is an American journalist and columnist renowned for her insights into etiquette and social norms. Born on September 13, 1938, she has been writing a etiquette column for The New York Times since 1962, remaining a prominent figure in the public eye to this day. more

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