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“Parents who feel good about themselves do not have to control their adult children. But [toxic parents] operate from a deep sense of dissatisfaction with their lives and a fear of abandonment. Their child's independence is like the loss of a limb to them. As the child grows older, it becomes ever more important for the parents to pull the strings that keep the child dependent. As long as toxic parents can make their son or daughter feel like a child, they can maintain control.”

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Book:Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
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Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

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Susan Forward
Susan Forward

Susan Forward is an American author born on May 14, 1938. She is renowned for her works in the field of psychology, particularly her books that delve into family dynamics and intimate relationships. more

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