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“The traditional meaning of consent means agreeing to something someone else wants: “I consent to X.” In this meaning, you “give consent” or “get consent”. I’d like to expand the definition and think of consent as being an agreement that two or more people come up with together. You don’t give consent, you arrive at consent—together.”

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Book:The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent
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Book:The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent
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