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“O tempo todo me assaltava o desejo de terminar, para não ter mais que ficar à mercê de uma chamada, para não sofrer mais, e logo imaginava o que viria com o término: uma sequência de dias sem nada para esperar. Então preferia continuar, ainda que a um custo alto — que ele tivesse outra mulher, ou várias (isto é, um sofrimento ainda maior que aquele que me levava a querer deixá-lo). Porém, se comparada ao vazio vislumbrado, minha situação presente parecia feliz, e meu ciúme era uma espécie de privilégio frágil cujo fim eu fora louca de desejar, já que cedo ou tarde esse fim chegaria, independentemente da minha vontade, quando ele fosse embora ou me abandonasse, ele, sempre ele.”

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Book:Simple Passion
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Simple Passion

This book delves into the intricacies of love, desire, and the human heart, offering a nuanced portrayal of the emotional journey. more

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Annie Ernaux
Annie Ernaux

Annie Ernaux, born on September 1, 1940, is a renowned French writer known for her autobiographical novels. Her works delve into the relationship between personal memory and history, as well as the impact of social class on individual destiny. more

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