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“Introverts living under the Extroversion Ideal are like women in a man’s world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are. Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we’ve turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform”

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Susan Cain
Susan Cain

Susan Cain is a writer known for her research and advocacy on introverted personalities. Her book 'Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking' explores the advantages of being introverted and challenges the dominant culture that favors extroversion. more

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