“A person struggling with an eating disorder keeps their rituals and disordered behaviors secret - it is a double life of sorts - and the behaviors themselves could be thought of as a maladaptive attempt at a solution. The symptoms are used to maintain a state of mind, full of fantasies of the possibilities of a 'moment' or a 'life', without what 'feels' unbearable. The person, in the eating disorder (ED) 'body-state,' truly believes that there is no other way.”
Source: Psychoanalytic Treatment of Eating Disorders
“Sadly, fierce in-group/out-group biases live within the eating disorder complex, generating and sustaining an ethical code of the culture as girls and women project their shadow upon one another. Individuals with anorexia secretly scorn those who struggle with bulimia or binge eating, those with bulimia and binge eating feel gross, often “wishing to be anorexic,” yet detesting their slim sisters with vicious jealousy. A callous hierarchy is formed, with anorexia as the ideal; bulimia, as a very distant underworld second; and binge eating, clearly at the bottom of acceptability.”
Source: Psychoanalytic Treatment of Eating Disorders: When Words Fail and Bodies Speak
“You must embrace change before change erases you.”
“In other words, a complex resides in the unconscious. Which means it possesses autonomy, exerting force upon the individual regardless of his/her conscious intent.”
Source: Psychoanalytic Treatment of Eating Disorders
“Complexes and their associated archetypes are the building blocks or blueprints of earliest human experience.”
Source: Psychoanalytic Treatment of Eating Disorders
“Do I need someone to be of use to, in order to justify my existence? she wonders. Do I need someone to desire me, in order to feel alive? Do men ever think like this?”
Source: Say My Name
“She feels the boundaries of her self expand, filling the space around her, leaving no lack, no gap where a man should be.”
Source: Say My Name
“Pagani e giudei potevano avere idee diverse su Dio, ma sulla donna avevano di sicuro la stessa. Il problema non era il fatto che Dio fosse «solo uno», ma chi dovesse essere il suo corrispettivo sociale, cioè l'uno che nella società aveva il potere di occupare la casella di Dio con la sua faccia. Se qualche categoria doveva essere esclusa, era più logico fosse una sottomessa, impossibilitata a opporsi al suo annichilimento. Sia nel mondo giudaico di partenza sia in quello greco-romano di arrivo c'erano persone - donne e bambini, schiavi, poveri e stranieri - che erano meno persone di altre, o non lo erano affatto, e a stabilirne la dignità erano gli uomini, cittadini, i patriarchi e i ricchi padroni. Per chi era già alI'apice della scala sociale, la svolta storica del cristianesimo di Stato fu una manna dal cielo: disegnare Dio a propria immagine fu il modo in cui le classi privilegiate riuscirono a rendere letteralmente sacrosanto il dislivello dei diritti che c'era da prima.”
Source: God Save the Queer: Catechismo femminista
“What a politician she’d have made if she had been born a man!”
Source: Throne of Glass
“Between the purported sex appeal of tuberculosis and its special deadliness in young people, being afflicted with the disease—or at least, looking like you were—became associated with a certain status. This was a moment at which a woman’s value was strongly tied to femininity, fragility, and purity alike. The consumptive girl lived at the tantalizing nexus of all three: being made at once sexually desirable by sickness yet also too sick to consummate that desire. And her death, heartbreaking as it was, only cemented her status as a sort of archetype of female purity, unsullied by the usual forces that conspired to slowly rob a woman of her value. It was possible, in this moment, to imagine that tuberculosis patients were destined for something greater, something more meaningful, than the ordinary vagaries of a mortal life: when the consumptive girl passed, it would be in a state of unpolluted grace”
Source: All in Her Head: The Truth and Lies Early Medicine Taught Us About Women’s Bodies and Why It Matters Today