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“Trust isn’t about having a spotless record and finding someone else who does. It’s about finding someone good-hearted enough not to hurt you on purpose, and knowing you’ll recover and carry on when pain inevitably comes.”

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Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax is an American writer renowned for her advice column in The Washington Post. Born on December 5, 1966, she has been offering relationship and life advice to readers for over two decades. Hax's columns are known for their insightful and often humorous take on a wide range of issues, from personal relationships to societal norms. more

“Playing nice" comes naturally when our neuroception detects safety and promotes physiological states that support social behavior. However, pro-social behavior will not occur when our neuroception misreads the environmental cues and triggers physiological states that support defensive strategies. After all, "playing nice" is not appropriate or adaptive behavior in dangerous or life-threatening situations. In these situations, humans - like other mammals - react with more primitive neurobiological defense systems. To create relationships, humans must subdue these defensive reactions to engage, attach, and form lasting social bonds. Humans have adaptive neurobehavioral systems for both pro-social and defensive behaviors.”

Social Fear Trust Distrust Triggers Complex Ptsd Dangerous People Defensive Interpersonal Relationships Neurophysiology Polyvagal Theory Unsafe People

Book:The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation

Source: The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation

“Every corner and room of a house will carry memories, make these the most pleasurable times you shared with your family.”

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