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“The only way for a woman, as for a man, to find herself, to know herself as a person, is by creative work of her own. There is no other way. But a job, any job, is not the answer—in fact, it can be part of the trap. Women who do not look for jobs equal to their actual capacity, who do not let themselves develop the lifetime interests and goals which require serious education and training, who take a job at twenty or forty to “help out at home” or just to kill extra time, are walking, almost as surely as the ones who stay inside the housewife trap, to a nonexistent future.”

Quote by Betty Friedan

Book:The Feminine Mystique
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The Feminine Mystique

Published in 1963, this influential book delves into the experiences and challenges faced by women in the 1950s and 1960s, highlighting the dissatisfaction and the search for purpose beyond traditional domestic roles. more

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Betty Friedan
Betty Friedan

Betty Friedan was an American writer renowned for her groundbreaking work, 'The Feminine Mystique,' which had a profound impact on the women's liberation movement of the 20th century. Her writing exposed the dilemmas faced by women in society, the family, and the workplace, sparking a reevaluation of their status and rights. more

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